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1. Those with the capacity to feel great pain are also those with the capacity to feel deep joy. Those who all hard, rise glorious.
2. To pain; come in, sit down with me. And don’t leave until you’ve taught me what I need to know.
3. A good day is a good day. A bad day is a good story. At the end of the day is all good.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
4. The amazing thing about love, attention, encouragement, grace, success and joy is that this things are infinite, we get a new supply every single morning and we can give it away all day.
We never ever want to monitor the supply of others or grab or hoard. There will be more in the morning and it will be enough.
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5. Faith is not a club to belong to, but a current to surrender to.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
6. Creativity doesn’t ask you to be ready first. It’s finds us on the bathroom floor, hands us an invitation, and says; Don’t wait till you’re ready, get up and dance with me.
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7. Everyone is exactly where she is supposed to be. You are not your own or anyone else’s path planner, you’re just a Traveller. keep moving and trust the path.
8. We can chose to be perfect and admired or to be real and be loved.
10. I think God puts people in our lives as gifts to us. The children in your class this year, they are some of God’s gifts to you. So please treat each one like a gift from God. Every single one.
11. More will be REVEALED.
12. Crisis means to sift. Let it all fall away and you’ll be left with what matters.
13. What matters most cannot be taken away.
14. Just do the next right thing. One thing at a TIME. that’ll take you all the way home.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
15. I am a child of God, and so is everyone else. We are all on the same side. And so in each new person, I see an invitation to know a new side of God. There are as many sides of him as there are people walking the earth. I think that’s why he keeps making people. He’s not done telling us about himself yet. So I remember that each person I meet or hear from, even if she’s not yet treating me the way I’d like to be treated, is the most important thing on earth. There is no hierarchy of importance, of brilliance. We are each infinity important. More brilliant than the sun. Because each of us is a child of God. So we better recognize. Those are the two sides of the golden coin I’d like each of my children to keep in her pocket forever: Be confident because you are a child of God. Be humble because everyone else is too.
16. Angry is only a dirty word to folks who are very interested in maintaining status quo.
17. Books are how we learn to Love HUMANITY without having to deal with like humans.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
18. It strikes me that I need to throw out the dictionary the world gave me about what it means to be a mother, a wife, a person of faith, an artist, and a woman and write my own. -Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
19. Don’t only believe in abundance but to create more of it – That’s the best,most exciting, expansive, huge way to live. To quit fighting for a bigger slice of pie and just bake a bigger pie and invite everybody you know to share it with you, nothing beats that. That’s power.
20. Never become so concerned with creating a life of meaning that you forget you already have one.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
21. The only person on Earth you must answer to is yourself in the stillness. Today is the day to stop running.
23. Expecting less than true friendship in my most important relationship is so depressing.
24. Grieving with another person is one of the holiest places to be.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
25. Bring all yourself to life and if you’re told you’re too much- smile and think; maybe. Or maybe their capacity is too small.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
26. Keep going That’s all you have to do ever. You really don’t have to be amazing or fierce or beautiful or successful or good. Just keep going please. Slowly is fine, crawling is fine, No feeling is fine except hope.
27. Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body like it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paint brush, whether your paint brush is a tall paint brush or a thin paint brush or a stocky paint brush or a scratched up paintbrush,
it is completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that you’ve a PAINTBRUSH which can be used to transfer your insides into on to the canvas of your life – Where others can see and be inspired and be comforted by it.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
29. I tend toward dramatic thinking. When I have a problem or when I feel icky, I tend to think the solution is; I have to move, and I need a new family, and a new religion and a new house. I need to start all over, everything is terrible. But what I usually need is, like, a glass of water.
That’s big problems usually have small solutions.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
30. You can’t miss your boat, it’s yours. it’s stays docked, till you’re ready. The only boat you can miss is someone else’s. Let them have theirs while you wait for yours.
31. I see your pain, and it’s big. I also see your courage, and it’s bigger. You can do hard things.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
33. When I’m at a table with people who have more privilege than I do, I speak up. When I’m at a table with people who has less privilege than I do, listen up. And when someone with more privilege interrupts someone with less, interrupts them back and return the floor.
34. Quit trying to become a better parent and decide to try becoming a better person.
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35. One quick thing we can do to make the world better is take the IF out of our apologies. It’s not; I’m sorry IF I hurt you – It’s I’m sorry THAT I hurt you. Little change big difference.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
36. If you’re uncomfortable – in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused – you don’t have a problem, you’ve a life. Being human is not hard, because you’re doing it wrong its hard because you’re doing it right.
You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea it was ever supposed to be easy.
The only thing wrong with us is our belief that there’s something wrong with us. We’re gonna get rid of that bullshit belief, and we’re gonna feel better.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
37. The most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next right thing,one thing at a time without asking permission or offering explaination.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
38. When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.
39. I’ve held my tongue so hard, I tasted blood, trying to be gentle. I’ve spent thousands on portions, and poison trying to be youthful. I’ve denied myself for decades trying to be pure.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
40. There’s no glory except straight through your story.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
41. Nice is a peace keeper. Honest is a peacemaker.
42. Maybe our imagination is not were go to escape reality but where we go to remember it. Maybe inside our imagination are our marching orders.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
43. Don’t mistake modesty for humility. Modesty is a giggly lie. An act. A mask. A fake game. We have no time for it. The word humility derives from the Latin word humilitas, which means “of the earth” to be humble is to be grounded in knowing who you are – To grow, to reach, to fully bloom as high and strong and grand as you were created to. It is not honourable for a tree to will, shrink and disappear, it’s not Honourable for a woman to, either.
43. Moment of uncertainty arises. Breathe, turn inward, sink. Feel around for the knowing. Do the next right thing.
44. We can stop asking what the world wants from us and instead ask ourselves what we want for our world.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
45. Sometimes you have to leave to discover that you left everything you needed back home.
46. I think sexy is a grown-up word to describe a person who’s confident, that she is already exactly who she was made to be. A sexy woman knows herself and she likes the way she looks, thinks, and feels. She doesn’t try to change to match anybody else. She’s a good friend to herself—kind and patient.
And she knows how to use her words to tell people she trusts what’s going on inside of her—her fears and anger, love, dreams, mistakes, and needs.
When she’s angry, she expresses her anger in healthy ways. When she’s joyful, she does the same thing. She doesn’t hide her true self because she’s not ashamed. She knows she’s just human—exactly how God made her and that’s good enough.
She’s brave enough to be honest and kind enough to accept others when they’re honest. When two people are sexy enough to be brave and kind with each other, that’s love.
Sexy is more about how you feel than how you look. Real sexy is letting your true self come out of hiding and find love in safe places.
That kind of sexy is good, really good, because we all want and need love more than anything else. “Fake sexy is different. It’s just more hiding.
Real sexy is taking off all your costumes and being yourself. Fake sexy is just wearing another costume. Lots of people are selling fake sexy costumes.
Companies know that people want to be sexy so badly because people want love.
They know that love can’t be sold, so they have big meetings in boardrooms and they say, ‘How can we convince people to buy our stuff? I know! We’ll promise them that this stuff will make them sexy!’ Then they make up what sexy means so they can sell it.
Those commercials you see are stories they’ve written to convince us that sexy is the car or mascara or hair spray or diet they’re selling.
We feel bad, because we don’t have what they have or look how they look. That’s what they want. They want us to feel bad, so we’ll buy more.
It almost always works. We buy their stuff and wear it and drive it and shake our hips the way they tell us to—but that doesn’t get us love, because none of that is real sexiness. People are even more hidden underneath fake sexiness, and the one thing you can’t do if you want to be loved is hide.
You can’t buy sexy, you have to become sexy through a lifetime of learning to love who God made you to be and learning who God made someone else to be.”
47. There are two different types of time. Chronos time is what we live in. It’s regular time. It’s one minute at a time, staring down the clock until bedtime time. It’s ten excruciating minutes in the Target line time, four screaming minutes in time-out time, two hours until Daddy gets home time. Chronos is the hard, slow-passing time we parents often live in.
Then there’s Kairos time. Kairos is God’s time. It’s time outside of time. It’s metaphysical time. Kairos is those magical moments in which time stands still. I have a few of those moments each day, and I cherish them.
48. In all my close friendships, words are the bricks I use to build bridges. To know someone I need to hear her, and to feel known, I need to be heard by her.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
The process of knowing and loving another person happens for me through conversation.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
I reveal something to help my friend understand me, she responds in a way that assures me she values my revelation, and then she adds something to help me understand her.
This back-and-forth is repeated again and again as we go deeper into each other’s hearts, minds, pasts, and dreams. Eventually, a friendship is built—a solid, sheltering structure that exists in the space between us—a space outside of ourselves that we can climb deep into. There is her, there is me, and then there is our friendship—this bridge we’ve built together.
49. The Warrior feeds all three of her selves: mind, spirit, body. I breathe deeply and then start on the potatoes. Eat until you’re full. Trust your body to guide you.
Treat yourself like someone you love, Glennon. Listen to what you want and need and give it to yourself. Be your own friend.
50. Maybe there is no way for love to fail, because the eventual result of all love is New Life.
51. Sometimes we get confused and believe that our gift must bring us money or success or fame.
52. Grace makes no disclaimer. It’s true for all or none.
53. Grief is nothing but a painful waiting, a horrible patience. Grief cannot be torn down or scaled or overcome or outsmarted. It can only be outlasted.
54. Education is like Christmas. We’re all just opening our gifts, one at a time. And it is a fact that each and every child has a bright shiny present with her name on it, waiting there underneath the tree. God wrapped it up, and he’ll let us know when it’s time to unwrap it.
55. A heart expands exactly as much as her owner allows.
56. Fancy language tends to make “in” people feel more in and “out” people feel more out, and I don’t think that’s how words are best used. Words are best used to describe specific feelings, ideas, and hearts as clearly as possible – to make the speaker and the listener, or the writer and the reader, feel less alone and more hopeful.
57. I’m not killing myself, I think as I open the door. I’m just not doing what’s required to live. There has to be a difference.
58. You have to turn your head to see peripheral miracles.
59. I’LL be helpless and broken and still—surrendered to my powerlessness.
60. Mutual surrender, maybe that’s an act of love. Surrendering to this thing that’s bigger than we are: this love, this pain. The courage to surrender comes from knowing that the love and pain will almost kill us, but not quite.
61. I have met myself and I am going to love her fiercely.
62. The way this life is now; the only things you need are the very things that can never been taken from you.
64. My destiny is to remind you to look up from the castles you’re building in the sand long enough to notice the cathedrals that God’s building all around you—without you, without your sweat, without your tears, without your consent.
65. I do not have the heart to suggest that maybe life doesn’t respect the boundaries of our tidy formulas, and that knowledge is not a fortress that keeps out pain.
66. If you don’t remember half of your life, does it even count? Did you really live it? I pass six more months of my life this way; half alive. Half alive is all the alive I can take.
67. My body is my teacher now, and I have learned. Pain and love are places I must be brave enough to visit. My courage will come from knowing I can handle whatever I encounter there—because I was designed by my creator to not only survive pain and love but also to become whole inside it. I was born to do this. I am a Warrior.
68. You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Life hurts and it’s hard. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it hurts for everybody. Don’t avoid the pain. You need it. It’s meant for you. Be still with it, let it come, let it go, let it leave you with the fuel you’ll burn to get your work done on this earth.
69. Be confident because you are a child of God. Be humble because everyone else is too.
70. A woman doesn’t need to be told, yet again, that she’s bad. She needs to be told that she’s good.
71. When you write your truth, it is a love offering to the world because it helps us feel brave and less alone.
72. You know, what strikes me is how desperately we all need to know that we are seen and heard. We don’t need our lives to be different, or easier, we just need someone to see the pain. To know what we’ve faced and overcome. To say: Yes. I see this. This is real. We don’t need a magician to take it all away – we just need a witness.
73. The messiest parts of our lives are also the most beautiful parts of our lives.
74. Whatever is our new spiritual motto and mantra. Whatever is divine.
75. One day a girl with sliced-up arms says, “My mom sent me here because she says no one can believe a word I say.” I look at her and I want to say: Does she see that you tell the truth on your arms?
Like I tell the truth in the toilet? By the time we landed in the hospital, most of our families considered us insensitive liars, but we didn’t start out that way.
We started out as ultrasensitive truth tellers. We saw everyone around us smiling and repeating “I’m fine! I’m fine! I’m fine!” and we found ourselves unable to join them in all the pretending. We had to tell the truth, which was: “Actually, I’m not fine.” But no one knew how to handle hearing that truth, so we found other ways to tell it.
We used whatever else we could find—drugs, booze, food, money, our arms, other bodies.
We acted out our truth instead of speaking it and everything became a godforsaken mess. But we were just trying to be honest.
76. We either allow ourselves to feel the burn of our own pain or someone we love gets burned by it.
77. I think about the tragedies the women in my life have faced.
How every time a child gets sick or a man leaves or a parent dies or a community crumbles, the women are the ones who carry on, who do what must be done for their people in the midst of their own pain.
While those around them fall away, the women hold the sick and nurse the weak, put food on the table, carry their families’ sadness and anger and love and hope.
Have women been the Warriors all along?
as if we were going through life with refrigerators strapped to our backs.
It was hard to breathe, hard to feel anything but weight and self-pity and anger.
78. Let’s stay here with our precious cups and drink safely alone. Everything is perfect. Why must you always ruin drinking by adding scary people and things?
79. I don’t think kids are any crueler than adults. I just think kids are less adept at disguising their cruelty.
80. Why are they all laughing? What is so funny? I can’t imagine what was ever so funny.
And why we are all just standing around in this room? Is this what we’ve been doing for the past decade? Just standing around?
I can’t imagine what was ever so interesting about this. Still, I desperately want back in. I want back into their worlds, but I don’t have the booze I need to get there.
I stay in a corner, and I can’t handle wallowing in my awkwardness and unbelonging for another moment, I tell Craig that he needs to take me home.
On the way out I stare at the vodka, whiskey, and rum bottles on the counter and I think, There I am. My personality, my courage, and my sense of humor are trapped inside those bottles and I can’t get to them.
I am not in here, I am in there. What is the point of getting sober if I don’t even like my sober self?
81. The God I decide to believe in is the God of the bathroom floor. A God of scandalously low expectations. A God who smiles down at a drunk on the floor, wasted and afraid, and says, There you are. I’ve been waiting. Are you ready to make something beautiful with me? I look at the blue cross and decide I will let it be. I will stop deeming myself unworthy of invitations and trust the inviter. I will test out the ridiculous, nonsensical possibility that somehow, in some way I can’t yet see, I will rise to meet this call.
82. I did not know, Before that woman told me, that all feelings were for feeling. I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy. I thought that happy was for feeling and that pain was for fixing and numbing and deflecting and hiding and ignoring. I thought that when life got hard, it was because I had gone wrong somewhere. I thought that pain was weakness and that I was supposed to suck it up. But the thing was that the more I sucked it up, the more food and booze I had to suck down.
83. How was my day? It was a lifetime. It was the best of times and the worst of times. I was both lonely and never alone. I was simultaneously bored out of my skull and completely overwhelmed. I was saturated with touch—desperate to get the baby off of me and the second I put her down I yearned to smell her sweet skin again. This day required more than I’m physically and emotionally capable of, while requiring nothing from my brain. I had thoughts today, ideas, real things to say and no one to hear them. I felt manic all day, alternating between love and fury. At least once an hour I looked at their faces and thought I might not survive the tenderness of my love for them. The next moment I was furious. I felt like a dormant volcano, steady on the outside but ready to explode and spew hot lava at any moment. And then I noticed that Amma’s foot doesn’t fit into her Ones anymore, and I started to panic at the reminder that this will be over soon, that it’s fleeting—that this hardest time of my life is supposed to be the best time of my life. That this brutal time is also the most beautiful time. Am I enjoying it enough? Am I missing the best time of my life? Am I too tired to be properly in love? That fear and shame felt like adding a heavy, itchy blanket on top of all the hard. But I’m not complaining, so please don’t try to fix it. I wouldn’t have my day or my life any other way. I’m just saying—it’s a hell of a hard thing to explain—an entire day with lots of babies. It’s far too much and not even close to enough.
84. It has been said that the opposite of Love is Hate, or perhaps apathy. Yet, I’m fairly certain that the opposite of Love is Fear. I think the root of all evil is fear.
85. To My Friend, on Her First Sober Morning, I have been where you are. I’ve lived through this day. This day when you wake up terrified. When you open your eyes and it hits you: the jig is up. You lie paralyzed in bed and shake from the horrifying realization that life as you know it is over. Then you think that’s probably okay, since life as you know it totally blows. Even so, you can’t get out of bed because the thing is you don’t know how. You don’t know how to live, how to interact, how to cope, how to function without a drink or at least the hope of a future drink. You never learned. You dropped out before all the lessons. So who will teach you how to live?
86. That’s how you can tell that you’re filling yourself with the wrong things. You use a lot of energy, and in the end, you feel emptier and less comfortable than ever.
87. It strikes me that it’s always religious people who are most surprised by grace. Those hoops we become so exhausted from jumping through? We created them. We forget that our maker made us human, and so it’s okay—maybe exactly right—to be human. We are ashamed of the design of the one we claim to worship. So we sweep up our mess and hide our doubts, contradictions, anger, and fear before showing ourselves to God, which is like putting on a fancy dress and makeup to prepare for an X-ray.
88. I don’t know how to fix my marriage. All I know is that I need to tear down my own walls and face what’s underneath. I cannot save my marriage but I can save myself. I can do that for me and for my children and for every relationship I have now and for everyone that comes in the future. I can do that so when I make the most important decision of my life, whether to stay with Craig or to leave him, I’ll know that it’s my strongest, healthiest self doing the deciding.
89. There are only two lives we might live: our dream or our destiny. Sometimes they are one in the same, and sometimes they’re not. Often our dreams are just a path to our destinies.
90. All of my wisdom, all of my love, originated in the messiest parts of my life.
91. I marvel at how wildly different each of their stories is. It’s proof that our lives were never meant to be cookie-cutter, culturally constructed carbon copies of some ideal. There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation.
92. The norms were created by somebody, and each of us is somebody. We can make our own normal. We can throw out all the rules and write our own.
We can build our lives from the inside out.
We can stop looking at what’s in front of us long enough to discover what’s inside us.
93. We can remember and unleash the life-changing, relationship-changing, world-changing power of our own imagination. It might take us a lifetime. Luckily, a lifetime is exactly how long we have.
94. I burned the memo that defined selflessness as the pinnacle of womanhood, but first I forgave myself for believing that lie for so long.
I had abandoned myself out of love.
They’d convinced me that the best way for a woman to love her partner, family, and community was to lose herself in service to them.
In my desire to be of service, I did myself and the world a great disservice.
I’ve seen what happens out in the world and inside our relationships when women stay numb, obedient, quiet, and small.
Selfless women make for an efficient society but not a beautiful, true, or just one. When women lose themselves, the world loses its way. We do not need more selfless women.
What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world’s expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves.
What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.
95. But the still, small voice won’t allow it. The still, small voice insists that if I walk back in now, I’ll be rejecting the gift inside of this crisis. Crisis, Sift, This is an invitation to allow everything to fall away in order to be left holding what can never be taken. The invitation in this pain is the possibility of discovering who I really am. Eleven years earlier, when I found myself stunned sober by that pregnancy test, I’d looked around and decided that adulthood meant taking on roles.
Adults became and so I became, became, became. I became a wife and then a mother and a church lady and a career woman. As I took on these roles, I kept waiting for that day when I could stop acting like a grown-up because I’d finally be one. But that day never came. My roles hung on the outside of me like costumes.
96. No woman on earth doesn’t give a fuck—no woman is that cool—she’s just hidden her fire. Likely, it’s burning her up.
97. I learned that all things pass; that life is hard to endure but not impossible. I discovered that after the enduring, if you choose not to run away, there are prizes. Those prizes are wisdom and dignity. I learned that Love and I, We could do hard things.
98. The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love.
99. Life is a quest to find an unfindable thing.
100. Well, maybe I’m trying be fine. Maybe all I do is try to be fine. Maybe I try harder than anybody.”
She says, “Maybe you should stop trying to be fine. Maybe life isn’t fine, and maybe it’ll never be fine. Maybe fine isn’t the right goal. What if you stopped trying so hard to be fine and just…lived?
101. Since I got sober, I have never been fine again, not for a single moment. I have been exhausted and terrified and angry. I have been overwhelmed and underwhelmed and debilitatingly depressed and anxious. I have been amazed and awed and delighted and overjoyed to bursting. I have been reminded, constantly, by the Ache: This will pass; stay close.
I have been alive.
102. I am grateful for the beauty in the midst of suffering. I am grateful for the treasure hunt through the minefield of life. Dangerous or not, I don’t want out of the minefield. Because truth, and beauty, and God are there.
103. Most of the messages we receive every day are from people selling easy buttons. Marketers need us to believe that our pain is a mistake that can be solved with their product. And so they ask, Feel lonely? Feel sad? Life hard? Well that’s certainly not because life can be lonely and sad and hard, so everybody feels that way. No, it’s because you don’t have this toy, these jeans, this hair, these countertops, this ice cream, this booze, this woman … fix your hot loneliness with THIS. So we consume and consume but it never works, because you can never get enough of what you don’t need. The world tells us a story about our hot loneliness so that we’ll buy their easy buttons forever. We accept this story as truth because we don’t realize that their story is the poison in our air. Our pain is not the poison; the lies about the pain are.
104. I now know the path of the Love Warrior: I will not betray myself. I will trust the wisdom of the still, small voice. I will not let fear drown her out. I will trust her and I will trust myself.
105. Do I truly want any of this, or is this what I was conditioned to want? Which of my beliefs are of my own creation and which were programmed into me?
106. Peace isn’t the absence of distraction or annoyance or pain. Its finding Me, finding peace and calm, in the midst of those distractions and annoyances and pains.
107. Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other.
108. I rigged an election trying to be Golden. I spent sixteen years with my head in a toilet trying to be light. I drank myself numb for a decade, trying to be pleasant. I’ve giggled at and slept with assholes, trying to be touchable. I’ve held my tongue so hard I tasted blood, trying to be gentle. I’ve spent thousands on potions a Ind poisons, trying to be youthful. I have denied myself for decades, trying to be pure.
109. Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I loved well. Here is my proof that I paid the price. So I’ll just show up and sit quietly and practice not being God with her. I’m so sorry, I’ll say. Thank you for trusting me enough to invite me close. I see your pain and it’s real. I’m so sorry.
110. The girls are silent at first. Then each girl diverts her eyes from the television screen and scans the faces of the other girls. Each looks to a friend’s face to discover if she herself is hungry. Some kind of telepathy is happening among them. They are polling. They are researching. They are gathering consensus, permission, or denial.
111. We spend all of our time, energy, words, and money creating a flurry, trying not to know, making sure that the snow doesn’t settle so we never have to face the fiery truth inside us—solid and unmoving.
112. The relationship is over. The wine is winning. The pills aren’t for back pain anymore. He’s never coming back. That book won’t write itself. The move is the only way. Quitting this job will save my life. It is abuse. You never grieved him. It’s been six months since we made love. Spending a lifetime hating her is no life at all.
113. We keep ourselves shaken up because there are dragons in our center.
114. I was afraid of what was inside me. It felt powerful enough to destroy every bit of the lovely life I’d built. Like how I never feel safe on a balcony because: What if I jump?
It’s okay, I told myself. I’ll keep myself and my people safe by keeping my insides hidden.
I was amazed at how easy this was. I was filled with electric thunder, simmering water, fiery red and gold, but all I had to do was smile and nod and the world would take me for easy breezy blue.
Sometimes I wondered if I wasn’t the only one using her skin to contain herself.
Maybe we are all fire wrapped in skin, trying to look cool.
115. After the meeting ended, a woman walked over and sat down next to me. She said, “Thanks for sharing. I relate. I just wanted to tell you something that somebody told me in the beginning. It’s okay to feel all of the stuff you’re feeling. You’re just becoming human again. You’re not doing life wrong; you’re doing it right. If there’s any secret you’re missing, it’s that doing it right is just really hard.
Feeling all your feelings is hard, but that’s what they’re for. Feelings are for feeling.
All of them.
Even the hard ones.
The secret is that you’re doing it right, and that doing it right hurts sometimes.
116. The music is a safe place to practice being human. In the span of one song I can feel it all, let it all come—joy and hope and terror and rage and love—and then let it pass. The song always ends. I survive every time. This is how I know I’m getting better: I become able to survive the beauty of music. I have accepted another one of life’s dangerous invitations: the invitation to feel.
117. I read somewhere that God sends us partners who are most likely to help us heal. This rings true to me. It’s just that sometimes the healing is so hard that one or both partners can’t take it, so somebody bails, or makes it impossible for the other partner to keep on loving. I understand this completely. Healing is so painful. Thankfully, when we turn away someone who would have helped us heal, God sends another. I don’t think he punishes us. He gives us lots and lots of tries. God is Forever Tries.
I think He sends our healing partners in all different forms, not just spouses.
He sends sisters, girlfriends, strangers, authors, artists, teachers, therapists, musicians, and puppies until one or several partners stick. But if we want redemption, we have to let one stick, eventually.
We have to sit through the pain long enough to rise again.
118. To me intimacy is about communication. Through the written or spoken or physically expressed word, communicating is how we get into each other’s hearts and minds.
119. Love is not warm and fuzzy or sweet and sticky. Real love is tough as nails. It’s having your heart ripped out, putting it back together, and the next day, offering it back to the same world that just tore it up.
It’s running toward pain and grief and brokenness instead of away from it. It’s turning the other cheek ’til you get whiplash. It’s resisting the overwhelming desire to quit, to save yourself for yourself.
It’s exhausting and uncomfortable. Sometimes it’s ugly, like using your bare hands to search for gold in piles of crap.
120. First: I can feel everything and survive.
What I thought would kill me, didn’t. Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore—I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all—and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life.
I learned that I’d never be free from pain but I could be free from the fear of pain, and that was enough.
I finally stopped avoiding fires long enough to let myself burn, and what I learned was that I am like that burning bush: The fire of pain won’t consume me. I can burn and burn and live. I can live on fire. I am fireproof.
121. Second: I can use pain to become.
I am here to keep becoming truer, more beautiful versions of myself again and again forever. To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution. Whether I like it or not, pain is the fuel of revolution. Everything I need to become the woman I’m meant to be next is inside my feelings of now.
Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold.
I will continue to become only if I resist extinguishing myself a million times a day.
If I can sit in the fire of my own feelings, I will keep becoming.
122. Consumer culture promises us that we can buy our way out of pain—that the reason we’re sad and angry is not that being human hurts; it’s because we don’t have those countertops, her thighs, these jeans. This is a clever way to run an economy, but it is no way to run a life. Consuming keeps us distracted, busy, and numb. Numbness keeps us from becoming.
This is why every great spiritual teacher tells us the same story about humanity and pain: Don’t avoid it. You need it to evolve, to become. And you are here to become.
if you sense a storm gathering, don’t fear it—because you ARE it.
123. Finally, I was being quiet and still enough to hear the truth: You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Life hurts and it’s hard. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it hurts for everybody.
Don’t avoid the pain. You need it. It’s meant for you. Be still with it, let it come, let it go, let it leave you with the fuel you’ll burn to get your work done on this earth.
124. First, I remember that I am a human being, and human beings make mistakes. Almost constantly. We fall short of what we aim for, always. We get impatient. We get angry. We get selfish. We get extremely sick and tired of playing pet store. That’s okay. It’s just the way it is. We’re human. Can’t fight it. Elephants gotta be elephants and people gotta be people.
125. The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be.
126. Each of those women has begun to live from her imagination.
Here’s how: Each honored her own discontent. She did not dismiss it, bury it, deflect it, deny it, blame it on someone else, or tell herself to shut up and be grateful. She heard her Knowing whisper “Not this,” and she admitted to herself that she heard it. She sat with it for a while.
Then she dared to utter her inner whisper out loud. She shared her discontent with another human being.
Then, when she was ready to move from Not this to This instead, she dared to call upon her imagination to tell her the story she was born to tell with her life.
127. She dreamed up what it would look like to have her specific version of truth and beauty come to life.
She looked for the blueprint she’d been born with, the one she’d forgotten existed. She unearthed her unseen order: her original plan.
128. We know what the world wants from us. We know we must decide whether to stay small, quiet, and uncomplicated or allow ourselves to grow as big, loud, and complex as we were made to be.
129. Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world. Every girl must decide whether to settle for adoration or fight for love.
130. I’m not a mess but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often, I say, ‘For the same reason I laugh so often–because I’m paying attention.’ I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide.
131. Our goal is to be tolerant of people who are different than we are, Chase, then we really are aiming quite low. Traffic jams are to be tolerated. People are to be celebrated.
132. People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.
133. What if pain—like love—is just a place brave people visit? What if both require presence, staying on your mat, and being still? If this is true, then maybe instead of resisting the pain, I need to resist the easy buttons. Maybe my reliance on numbing is keeping me from the two things I was born for: learning and loving. I could go on hitting easy buttons until I die and feel no pain, but the cost of that decision could be that I’ll never learn, love, or be truly alive.
134. If you feel something calling you to dance or write or paint or sing, please refuse to worry about whether you’re good enough. Just do it. Be generous. Offer a gift to the world that no one else can offer: yourself.
135. There is no way to overpower, outrun, or outsmart the mad dog of hopelessness because it’s simply more vicious than I. The only thing to do is let it attack, go limp in its jaws, and be shaken. But I notice one promising pattern. If I play dead, it will eventually let me go. I start thinking of the dog of hopelessness as an obstacle that will reappear on every curve of the spiral staircase. He’ll always be there waiting and snarling, but with every go-round, I’ll be more confident and less fearful. Eventually, I’ll learn the tricks that will allow me to breeze right past him. But the mad dog of hopelessness will always be there. My spiral staircase of progress means that my pain will be both behind me and in front of me, every damn day. I’ll never be “over it,” but I vow to be stronger each time I face it. Maybe the pain won’t change, but I will. I keep climbing.
136. The sun shows up every morning, no matter how bad youve been the night before. It shines without judgment. It never withholds. It warms the sinners, the saints, the druggies, the cheerleaders- the saved and the heathens alike. You can hide from the sun, but it wont take you personally. It´ll never, ever punish yourfor hiding. You can stay in the dark for years or decades, and when you finally step outside, it´ll be there.
137. You have been offered “the gift of crisis”. As Kathleen Norris reminds us, the Greek root of the word crisis is “to sift”, as in, to shake out the excesses and leave only what’s important. That’s what crises do. They skae things up until we are forced to hold on to only what matters most. The rest falls away.
138. We think our job as humans is to avoid pain, our job as parents is to protect our children from pain, and our job as friends is to fix each other’s pain. Maybe that’s why we all feel like failures so often – because we all have the wrong job description for love.
139. People who are hurting don’t need Avoiders, Protectors, or Fixers. What we need are patient, loving witness. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in helpful vigil to our pain.
140. Wherever you go, there you are. Your emptiness goes with you. Maddening. Things that help: writing, reading, water, walks, forgiving myself every other minute, practicing easy yoga, taking deep breaths, and petting my dogs. These things don’t fill me completely, but they remind me that it is not my job to fill myself. It’s just my job to notice my emptiness and find graceful ways to live as a broken, unfilled human.
141. If there’s a silver lining to the emptiness, here it is: the unfillable is what brings people together. I’ve never made a friend by bragging about my strengths, but I’ve made countless by sharing my weakness and my emptiness.
142. R is my inhale and writing is my exhale.
143. It’s ok to feel too much and know too little.
144. So what is it in a human life that creates bravery, kindness, wisdom, and reilience? What if it’s pain? What if it’s the struggle?
145. My daughter and I pay attention. We know what the world wants from us. We know we must decide whether to stay small, quiet, and uncomplicated or allow ourselves to grow as big, loud, and complex as we were made to be. Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.
146. The journey is learning that pain, like love, is simply something to surrender to. It’s a holy space we can enter with people only if we promise not to tidy up.
147. Since brokenness is the way of folks, the only way to live peacefully is to forgive everyone constantly, including yourself.
148. Here’s my hunch: nobody’s secure, and nobody feels like she completely belongs. Those insecurities are just job hazards of being human. But some people dance anyway, and those people have more fun.
149. I’ll show up and stand humble in the face of a loved one’s pain. I’ll admit I’m as empty-handed, dumb-struck, and out of ideas as she is. I won’t try to make sense of things or require more than she can offer. I won’t let my discomfort with her pain keep me from witnessing it for her. I’ll never try to grab or fix her pain, because I know that for as long as it takes, her pain will also be her comfort. It will be all she has left.
150. What I want to be, a girl, is beautiful. Beautiful means ‘full of beauty.’ Beautiful is not about how you look on the outside. Beautiful is about what you’re made of. Beautiful people spend time discovering what their idea of beauty on this earth is.
They know themselves well enough to know what they love, and they love themselves enough to fill up with a little of their particular kind of beauty each day.
151. That’s how you can tell that you’re filling yourself with the wrong things. You use a lot of energy, and in the end, you feel emptier and less comfortable than ever.
152. They look because she’s lovely but they stare because she is love.
153. My courage will come from knowing I can handle whatever I encounter there — because I was designed by my creator to not only survive pain and love but also to become whole inside it. I was born to do this. I am a Warrior.
154. Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. It’s simply something to do.
155. Having something to say and no one to hear it is so lonely.
156. God approaches us in the disguise of other people.
157. I’m trying to fix my pain with certainty, as if I’m one right choice away from relief. I’m stuck in anxiety quicksand: The harder I try to climb my way out, the lower I sink. The only way to survive is to make no sudden movements, to get comfortable with discomfort, and to find peace without answers.
158. I learned that in these disasters, all we can do is tell our In Case of Emergencies that their grief is real, and if it lasts forever, then we will grieve with them forever.
As far as I was able to tell during those two years, there was nothing else worth saying.
It was not going to be all right, ever. Everything doesn’t happen for a decent reason.
I was Sister’s In Case of Emergency and I couldn’t fix her emergency.
I couldn’t do anything at all except feed her, hold her when she cried, pray angry prayers, keep showing up, and hope that time and my home and presence would offer healing.
159. Women who are concerned with being pretty think about what they look like, but women who are concerned with being beautiful think about what they are looking at. They are taking it all in. They are taking in the whole beautiful world and making all that beauty theirs to give away to others.
160. forgetfulness feels like carelessness, and his carelessness feels like rejection.
161. Why does a woman’s neutral face mean anger, while a man’s neutral face means neutral?
162. You will meet plenty of people who are pretty but haven’t yet learned how to be beautiful. They will have the right look for the times but they will not glow.
163. Beautiful women glow. When you are with a beautiful women you might not notice her hair or skin or body or clothes, because you’ll be distracted by the way she makes you feel. She will be so full of beauty that you will feel some of it overflow onto you. You’ll feel warm and safe and curious around her.
Her eyes will twinkle a little and she’ll look at you really closely, because beautiful wise women know that the quickest way to fill up with beauty is to soak in another human being. Women who are concerned with being pretty think about what they look like, but women who are concerned with being beautiful think about what they’re looking at.
164. I think one of the keys to happiness is accepting that I am never going to be perfectly happy. Life is uncomfortable. So I might as well get busy loving the people around me. I’m going to stop trying so hard to decide whether they are the “right people” for me and just take deep breaths and love my neighbors. I’m going to take care of my friends. I’m going to find peace in the ’burbs. I’m going to quit chasing happiness long enough to notice it smiling right at me.
165. I don’t want to take anything to the grave. I want to die used up and emptied out. I don’t want to carry around anything that I don’t have to. I want to travel light.
166. That’s the thing about becoming a family: you gotta melt. You have to keep melting into each other until you become something entirely new. The only constant family rule is that everyone has to keep showing up.
167. I need to sit with the quiet. I know that much.
168. The original Hebrew word for woman, a word that is used twice to refer to the first woman, three times to refer to strong military forces, and sixteen times to refer to God, is this: Ezer…I learn this: “The word Ezer has two roots: strong and benevolent.
The best translation of Ezer is: Warrior.” God created woman as a Warrior.
169. I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.
170. When one is burying a dream, one might as well plant another dream.
171. I do know what to do, just never more than one moment at a time. I stop explaining myself, because I learn that making decisions is never about doing the right thing or the wrong thing. It’s about doing the precise thing. The precise thing is always incredibly personal and often makes no sense to anyone else. God speaks to folks directly ad one at a time, so I just listen and follow directions. And when I need to work anything out, I turn to the blank page. There, no one can steal my pain or try to poison my knowing, and there I always have the final word in my own story.
172. Kind people are brave people. Brave is not something you should wait to feel. Brave is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd. Trust me, baby, It is more important.
173. I‘ve only begun the work that needs to be done here. Not yet, the voice says. Not yet. See this through. Unbecome, Glennon. Unbecome until you uncover who you really are.
174. I am loved and have always been loved and will always, always be loved. I have never been separated from this love, I have only convinced myself I was.
175. We’ve spent our time together talking about everything but what matters. We’ve never brought to each other the heavy things we were meant to help each other carry. We’ve only introduced each other to our representatives, while our real selves tried to live life alone.
We thought that was safer.
We thought that this way our real selves wouldn’t get hurt. But as I read these messages, it becomes clear that we are all hurting anyway. And we think we are alone.
At our cores, we are our tender selves peeking out at a world of shiny representatives, so shame has been layered on top of our pain.
We’re suffocating underneath all the layers.
176. Be critical, fine, that’s fair. But don’t be cruel. Every damn one of us knows the difference.
If you are not kind on the internet, then you’re not kind.
177. The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love.
178. Loving people and animals makes us stronger in the right ways and weaker in the right ways. Even if animals and people leave, even if they die, they leave us better.
So we keep loving, even though we might lose, because loving teaches us and changes us.
179. Defrosting is excruciatingly painful. You have been numb for so long. As feeling comes back to your soul, you start to tingle, and it’s uncomfortable and strange. But then the tingles start feeling like daggers. Sadness, loss, fear, anger, anxiety—all of these things that you have been numbing with the booze—you feel them for the first time. And it’s horrific at first, to tell you the damn truth. But welcoming the pain and refusing to escape from it is the only way to recovery. You can’t go around it, you can’t go over it.
180. These things don’t fill me completely, but they remind me that it is not my job to fill myself. It’s just my job to notice my emptiness and find graceful ways to live as a broken, unfilled human—and maybe to help myself and others feel a teeny bit better.
181. I wonder if he knows that all I do is apologize. That’s all I do. I’m sorry, I’m so sorry, I’m sorry for being me. My whole life is an apology, and that hasn’t made a damn thing better. Mary had known. She had understood: A woman doesn’t need to be told, yet again, that she’s bad. She needs to be told that she’s good. Mary didn’t ask me to repent. She asked me to rest. But sitting in the priest’s office, I see how the system works here. I have to repent to him so I can go rest with her. I do what I’m told. I apologize. “I’m so sorry,” I say. “I want to be better.” He nods again and then offers some magic words I’m to repeat twenty times. After I say them, I will be forgiven. I nod and flash back twenty years. I’m at the neighborhood pool waiting in line to buy ice cream. The ice cream man is selling Popsicles for a dollar each, while a high school kid who has broken into the truck is passing out free Popsicles from the back. The ice cream man hasn’t a clue what’s going on behind him. I wonder if the priest knows that while he’s up here charging for forgiveness, Mary’s back there handing it out for free. He must not know, which is why he is insisting that God’s forgiveness has a price. I am pretending to believe this and promising to pay so I can get back to Mary, who is at the back of the truck hosting a free-for-all.
182. I am confident because I believe that I am a child of God. I am humble because I believe that everyone else is too.
183. If we empty our hearts every night, they won’t get too heavy or cluttered. Our hearts will stay light and open with lots of room for good new things to come.
184. If I want my world to be less vicious, then I must become more gentle. If I want my children to embrace other children for who they are, to treat other children with the dignity and respect every child of God deserves, then I had better treat other adults the same way. And I better make sure that my children know beyond a shadow of a doubt that in God’s and their father’s and my eyes, they are okay. They are loved as they are. Without a single unless. Because the kids who bully are those who are afraid that a secret part of themselves is not okay.
These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things.
185. When you write your truth, it is a love offering to the world because it helps us feel braver and less alone.
186. There are only two lives we might live: our dream or our destiny. Sometimes they are one in the same, and sometimes they’re not. Often our dreams are just a path to our destinies.
187. I don’t believe in advice. Everybody has the answers right inside her, since we’re all made up of the same amount of God. So when a friend says, I need some advice, I switch it to, I need some love, and I try to offer that.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
188. When reentering society and risking rejection, the library is a good place to start. They have low expectations. I love the library. Also church. Both have to take you in.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
189. If I want to know: Is there anyone on earth who won’t betray me? I must answer myself: Yes. Look in the mirror. She won’t betray you.
190. I promised myself it would all be okay if I followed three simple rules: Show Up, Be Brave, and Be Kind.
191. Then I remember what my most important parenting job is, and that is to teach my children how to deal with being human. Because most likely, that’s where they’re headed. No matter what I do, they’re headed toward being messed-up humans faster than three brakeless railroad cars. There is really only one way to deal gracefully with being human, and that is this: Forgive yourself.
192. We are just scattered pieces of the same puzzle, so when we hurt each other, we hurt ourselves.
193. Some loves are perennials–they survive the winter and bloom again. Maybe others are annuals–beautiful and lush and full for a season and then back to the earth to die and create rich soil for new life to grow. Maybe there is no way for love to fail, because the eventual result of all love is New Life. Death and resurrection–maybe that’s just the way of life and love. I decide that regardless of whether my marriage reveals itself to be an annual or a perennial love, there will be new lushness and beauty and life that comes of it.
194. Life is brutal, but it’s also beautiful. Life is Brutiful.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
195. When they speak to you from their fear–speak past their fear and directly to their love. Their Love will step forward eventually.
196. Children are not cruel. Children are mirrors. They want to be “grownup,” so they act how grown-ups act when we think they’re not looking. They do not act how we tell them to act at school assemblies. They act how we really act. They believe what we believe. They say what we say. And we have taught them that gay people are not okay. That overweight people are not okay. That Muslim people are not okay. That they are not equal. That they are to be feared. And people hurt the things they fear. We know that. What they are doing in the schools, what we are doing in the media — it’s all the same. The only difference is that children bully in the hallways and the cafeterias while we bully from behind pulpits and legislative benches and sitcom one-liners.
197. The water is speaking in a language I knew before the world taught me its language. I lie there and I let the sound of the surf massage my soul for two hours. I let it speak to me and I do not speak back. I just receive. I understand with great gratitude that i could rest here forever, offer the sea nothing in return, and it would never stop speaking to me. The surf is gentle and selfless and steady. This is not a transaction, it is a gift.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
198. I am at peace. And I understand that I am in the middle of a reunion with God. This is a returning of my soul to its source. My soul’s source is God, and God is love. I am, right at this moment, in perfect love with God and there is no fear in perfect love.
199. The God I decide to believe in is the God of the bathroom floor. A God of scandalously low expectations. A God who smiles down at a drunk on the floor, wasted and afraid, and says, There you are. I’ve been waiting. Are you ready to make something beautiful with me?
200. Bear with great patience each other’s infirmities of body or behavior. And when the thorns of contention arise, daily forgive, and be ready to accept forgiveness.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
201. Parenting is hard. Just like lots of important jobs are hard. Why is it that the second a mother admits that it’s hard, people feel the need to suggest that maybe she’s not doing it right? Or that she certainly shouldn’t add more to her load. Maybe the fact that it’s so hard means she IS doing it right, in her own way, and she happens to be honest.
202. The only constant family rule is that everyone has to keep showing up.
203. Happiness is low expectations paired with a short-term memory problem.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
204. Why does it have to hurt? Why does it have to be hard?” Tish asked me. “You know how math is your hardest class right now, but it’s also where you’re learning the most?” I explained. “It’s like that. Life is about learning, and we learn best when things get hard.
205. I have decided that I’m ready to stop destroying myself and start creating. I have already accepted my invitation and no one will convince me again that I’m not worthy. Not ever again. I have been invited and I have said Yes. My Yes is final.
206. My unforgiveness is just another easy button. We aren’t different. We are exactly the same. We are individual pieces of a scattered puzzle and we are just a little lost down here. We are all desperate for reunion and we are trying to find it in all the wrong places. We use bodies and drugs and food to try to end our loneliness, because we don’t understand that we’re lonely down here because we are supposed to be lonely. Because we’re in pieces. To be human is to be incomplete and constantly yearning for reunion. Some reunions just require a long, kind patience.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
207. I’d like to be kind, and at the very least not add to people’s pain.
208. The is trying to be brave, but no one knows what brave looks like inside this particular moment.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
209. This is the difference between God and booze. God requires something of us. The booze numbs the pain but God insists on nothing short of healing. God deals only with truth and the truth will set you free, but it will hurt so badly first. Sobriety will be like walking toward my own crucifixion. that what it will take though. That’s what it will take to rise.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
210. They wanted to adore me and I complicated things by inserting myself into their experience of me.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
211. But what can happen over time is this: You wake up one day and realize that you have put yourself back together completely differently. That you are whole, finally, and strong – but you are now a different shape, a different size. This sort of change — the change that occurs when you sit inside your own pain — it’s revolutionary. When you let yourself die, there is suddenly one day: new life. You are Different. New. And no matter how hard you try, you simply cannot fit into your old life anymore. You are like a snake trying to fit into old, dead skin, or a butterfly trying to crawl back into the cocoon, or new wine trying to pour itself back into an old wineskin. This new you is equal parts undeniable and terrifying.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
212. Because you just do not fit. And suddenly you know that And you have become a woman who doesn’t ignore her knowing. Who doesn’t pretend she doesn’t know. Because pretending makes you sick. And because you never promised yourself an easy life, but you did promise yourself a true one. You did promise – back when you were putting yourself back together – that you’d never betray you again.
213. Self-forgiveness. It’s more like a constant attitude. It’s just being hopeful. It’s refusing to hold your breath. It’s loving yourself enough to offer yourself a million more tries. It’s what we want our kids to do every day for their whole lives, right? We want them to embrace being human instead of fighting against it. We want them to offer themselves grace. Forgiveness and grace are like oxygen: we can’t offer it to others unless we put our masks on first. We have to put our grace masks on and breathe in deep.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-
214. Growing up is an unbecoming. My healing has been a peeling away of costume after costume until here I am, still and naked and unashamed before God, stripped down to my real identity. I have unbecome. And now I stand: Warrior. Undressed for battle. Strong and benevolent. Both yin and yang. Complete, not in need of completing. Sent to fight for everything worth having: truth, beauty, kindness, shamelessness, love. To march into pain and love with eyes and heart wide open, to stand in the wreckage and believe that my power, my love, my light, are stronger than the darkness. I know my name now. Love Warrior. I came from Love and I am Love and I will return to Love. Love casts out fear. A woman who has recovered her true identity as a Love Warrior is the most powerful force on earth. All the darkness and shame and pain in the world can’t defeat her.
215. I’m trying to strip myself down to my barest essentials so I can figure out where I begin and where the woman the world told me to be begins. I’m going back to the starting line.
216. Oh! I thought sexy meant pretty.” “Hmm, nope. Pretty is another thing that can be sold. What and who is pretty is also something those people in boardrooms decide. It’s always changing. So if what you want to be is pretty, you’ll have to keep changing yourself constantly—and eventually you won’t know who you are. “What I want to be, girls, is beautiful. Beautiful means ‘full of beauty.’ Beautiful is not about how you look on the outside. Beautiful is about what you’re made of. Beautiful people spend time discovering what their idea of beauty on this earth is. They know themselves well enough to know what they love, and they love themselves enough to fill up with a little of their particular kind of beauty each day.
217. Just want us to remember than when we became parents, we didn’t change species. We’re still humans. I mean, we’re bad-ass humans, for sure, but humans nonetheless. We make mistakes, all day, and that’s good. We want our children to see that. We want them to learn how to handle mistakes because that’s an important thing to learn. We expect to make mistakes, we say we’re sorry, we forgive ourselves, we shrug and smile, and we try again.
218. He is human. I hadn’t wanted him to be human. I had wanted him to be perfect and golden – steady and solid, simple and strong – so that I could be messy, complicated, and weak. But we are each all of those things.
219. I’ve been thinking about how one of the simplest ways to get close to a woman is to be good to her children. To be kind and gentle and to pay close attention to the things that make them special. To try to see her children the way she sees her children. And how God made us in his image. How he is the mother and father of all of us. So I wonder if that would be the best way to get closer to him too. By being kind and gentle to his children and noticing all of the things that make them special. So many of us spend our time trying to find God in books, but maybe the simplest way to God is directly through the hearts of his children.
220. Not creating is a crucial part of creating There are times for creating and times for becoming the person who will create the next big thing.-Glennon Doyle quotes on life Untamed-